When Past Sexual Abuse Affects Your Marriage

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The #MeToo movement has raised the awareness of sexual abuse stories. What do you do when past sexual abuse affects your marriage? I believe there are many people struggling with this reality. It is a silent, private and hidden pain eating away at marriages.

If your wife was a victim of past sexual abuse, you know the damage and hurt it causes. One in four girls experience some form of sexual abuse before they are 18 years old (US DOJ). There are a larger number of married couples dealing with haunted marriages. Depression, anxiety, nightmares and substance abuse are just some of the consequences. Even more challenging is forming and maintaining healthy relationships.

Even if this is not your story, chances are you have friends who are living this reality and you don’t even know it.

In this recent Promise Keepers Canada podcast, I had the opportunity to interview Dr. Barbara Wilson. She talks about what your wife needs and how you can help. She gives very useful advice on how to help victims start their recovery journey. If you are looking for hope from how past sexual abuse affects your marriage, this interview will help!

Barbara Wilson is an author, psychotherapist and the founder of Freedom Bound Communications, an organization that brings healing and hope to those with a sexual past. Released from a past of her own, Barbara brings neuroscience, Scripture and her own story to help couples move forward to healing.

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  1. Hope for Men has been assisting Adult Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse since 2005.
    H4M run weekly Peer Support Groups in Hamilton on Monday evenings at 7:30pm and in St. Catharines on Tuesday evenings at 7:00pm.
    All information can be located on our website http://www.hopeformen.ca or by calling me at 905-975-6455.

  2. This abuse before being 6, has affected my relationships in many ways…. attracting abusive, relationship breaking guys. The Church is not realizing the hurt and pain and continuing pain into another generation that this can cause. LET THE BUCK STOP in the generation that it happened in.

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